You can do everything right. You can pursue God with everything in you. But if you don't understand that the adhesive holding your relationship together is not your love for each other but your individual obedience to God, you'll miss the foundation that makes everything else work. In this deeply personal, profoundly insightful episode of Unbroken Podcast, host Richard Akita sits down with a young man who has finally cracked the code to relationships, for an unfiltered conversation that will challenge everything you think you know about what it takes to build a marriage that lasts, why love alone is never enough, and the uncomfortable truth that God interrupted Adam with Eve the same way he interrupts every man who is consumed with pursuing him first. This guest holds nothing back. He breaks down why the problem with his past relationships was not that the women didn't embody his ideal but that individually they were not in pursuit of the adhesive, why he relied on his own willpower which depletes instead of trusting somebody who is omniscient and omnipresent, and the one thing that finally clicked: his obedience to God. He reveals why he's been dating since GSS and struggled with youthful exuberance and adolescence and seeking satisfaction, how the difference now is that he trusts God who has the best eye view of what this looks like and follows as he leads, and the moment he realized that his love for his woman cannot be compared to the love God has for him or for her but as long as their love is a subset of God's love for them they are sustained. He also explains why it took two years before he could pop the question because he had to meet her father who is a big man he admired even before he knew his daughter, how he spoke to his brother his dad and her aunt before approaching him and when they finally met they talked for an hour and a half, and the one thing every man needs to understand: the thing that keeps him in check is not his love for his woman but his love for God and his faithfulness to him. This isn't just relationship advice. It's a masterclass in understanding why bad egg bad egg makes a bad omelet but good egg good egg makes a good omelet, why it's not the institution of marriage that's the problem but the individuals who come together in that institution, and how the first Adam and Eve made in the image of God were in pursuit of God until they lost that pursuit and started pursuing each other instead. He dives into why Jesus protects his bride with vengeance and says if anybody comes against his church it is better to tie his neck to a stone and drown in the sea, how the word Ezer means God is not just giving you an ally but giving you himself, and the uncomfortable reality that submission is not tyranny or dictatorship but mirroring how God deals with us because the Holy Spirit is gentle and coaxes us and shows us the way without being forceful. He also tackles why the hierarchy of the home says the man is submitted to Christ and the woman is submitted to the man, how Christ deals with the man the way the man is supposed to deal with the wife, and the one thing every couple needs to accept: love is not enough because the standard is not your love for each other but your obedience to God who keeps you in check. If you're in a relationship, wondering whether love is enough to hold you together, or asking yourself how to maintain your love for your wife in obedience to God, this conversation will give you the clarity, the language, and the courage to stop relying on your own willpower and start building a relationship where both of you pursue God first and let him interrupt you with each other. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎙️ ABOUT THE HOST Mr Richard Akita is a multifaceted relationship and life coach, author, entrepreneur, and corporate trainer with over 30–35 years of experience in management and personal development. IG: https://www.instagram.com/akitarichard/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎧 ABOUT UNBROKEN PODCAST Unbroken Podcast is where stories meet truth. Hosted by Richard Akita, the show brings together thinkers, builders, healers, and disruptors to have the conversations most people are afraid to have about love, faith, identity, money, family, and the journey to becoming whole. Welcome to the new home of unfiltered wisdom. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔔 SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss the next episode 👍 LIKE if this conversation challenged you 📤 SHARE with someone who NEEDS to hear this
