We can practice the following grounding techniques at any time when beginning to feel anxious.
With practice, they will become more familiar, habitual, and something to turn to when we recognize unhelpful thoughts or physical sensations that lead to feelings of anxiety (modified from Allen, 2020; Jenkins-Omar, 2020; Williams & Penman, 2016; Najavits, 2011):
1. Five senses
Your senses are another powerful way to reconnect with the present and redirect attention away from anxiety triggers.
While you may wish to find somewhere quiet, this exercise can be performed anywhere.
When sitting comfortably, close your eyes and take a few slow, deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth. Relax and focus your attention on each breath as it happens.
Next, open your eyes and, either to yourself or out loud, ask yourself the following:
- What can I see?
- What can I feel?
- What can I hear?
- What can I smell?
- What can I taste?
Try to remain in the moment throughout, returning your attention to each sense and what you observe.
When you’re ready, take a few deep breaths to end the exercise.
2. Holding an object
Experiencing and becoming immersed in an object can be a great way to ground yourself.
It can be helpful to keep a smooth stone or small paperweight in a drawer ready for this exercise. Any object with a pleasant texture or nice appearance that can fit in the palm of your hand will work.
Hold the object in your hand, bringing your full attention to how it looks and feels. Think about its colors, how it sparkles, reflects the light, or casts a shadow. Reflect on its texture. Is it smooth, soft, rippled, coarse, or dry? Does it feel light and balanced, or heavy and unevenly weighted?
Spend time observing the object, immersed, present, and grounded.
3. Grounding chair
Even the act of sitting can help us regain a sense of feeling grounded, and it can be discreetly performed anywhere.
Become aware of the contact between you and your seat, your weight against its surface, and the texture of the material on the chair.
When you’re ready, apply pressure from your feet to the ground. Imagine the weight draining from your mind and body (perhaps as a color of your choice) into the ground. Feel the lightness of each part of your body as that weight leaves.
Take a few easy, slow breaths and return your awareness to the room when you are ready. Notice how you may feel a little lighter, more present, and less burdened.
4. Ask yourself questions
While anxiety often leaves us feeling on edge and panicky, it may also cause us to feel unreal, dissociated, and detached. Grounding ourselves with questions can bring us back to the here and now.
Ask yourself the following questions and write down the answers, perhaps in a dedicated journal or on quality paper set aside for the task using a preferred pen or pencil:
Where am I right now?
What day and month is it?
What season is it?
How old am I?
Where do I live, and with whom?
Imagine yourself at this point. A line of human ancestors brought you to the present moment, to be here right now.
5. Positive coping statement
Prepare a coping statement for when you begin to feel the onset of anxiety or overwhelm.
For example,
My name is X. Everything that is happening now will pass. There will come a time when I can look back on this time without fear or anxiety.
Repeat the above statement or something similar, lingering on each word, and recognize the temporary nature of painful memories and difficult events.
6. Three-minute breathing space meditation
Mindful breathing is the perfect companion to grounding.
Breathing is a powerful, effective, and instant way to return the body and mind to the present and experience the many benefits of mindfulness and centering.
Williams and Penman (2016) suggest using a three-minute breathing space meditation for grounding.
Sitting upright and comfortably, close your eyes, bringing your attention to your inner experience.
Step one: Explore your experience right now by considering the following:
- What thoughts are going through your mind? Recognize them as mental events.
- What feelings are present? Acknowledge them without attempting to change them.
- What bodily sensations are you experiencing? Become aware of any tightness or discomfort, but do not try to influence the sensation.
Step two: Gather and focus.
- Imagine a small spotlight following the physical sensations of each breath.
- Move in close to the sensation of the breath in your abdomen. Recognize it expanding and contracting. Gently place your hand on your stomach if it helps.
- Maintain your focus.
Step three: Expand your attention.
- Expand your awareness of your breath to your whole body.
- Become aware of your whole being as you breathe, including discomfort and tension, each breath moving around the sensations.
- Rather than trying to change them, befriend the sensations.
When you are ready, take a few gentle, deep breaths, opening your eyes if you haven’t already done so. Return your attention to your surroundings while carrying the calmness with you.
7. Finger and shape breathing for children
If a child is using short and shallow breaths when anxious, gaining mastery of their breathing can help them restore control of how they feel.
This simple exercise can be easily performed in a group or used discreetly by a child to manage their anxiety.
The child aims to gently track the movement, as though slowly progressing up and down a hill, in control of each breath.
Ask the child to follow the outline of their hand with their gaze or with another finger. They can imagine it if they prefer to keep their eyes closed.
As their attention moves slowly and gently up each finger, they breathe in. On the way back down the other side, they breathe out. Repeat for all five fingers on a hand, then continue back if they wish to continue.
Encourage the child to practice the exercise and have it ready when they begin to feel anxious.
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